A Baby Story: The Start Of The Shortest Ride


Published: October 28, 2014

Welcome back to one woman’s brand new journey on life’s oldest road: pregnancy! In my first post, “Getting Ready for Baby,” I talked about the various steps my husband and I needed to take before starting on the path to parenthood. In today’s article, I’ll share some great information I received during my pre-conception checkup with the doctor.

The day before my second period arrived, I finally got in to see the right doctor for my pre-conception checkup. At this point, I had been off the pill for seven weeks, and we couldn’t really say we had started trying yet because I was away on a work trip for five of those seven weeks.

Talking to the doctor

I had a great conversation with the doctor, who checked that everything was in order and took all the necessary samples. It was a good visit, and I felt empowered by the information I received. Here is some of what she told me about becoming pregnant: 

 Baby Story - Doctor's Visit

  • To get pregnant, work toward having sex every other day between days 12 to 18 of your cycle (the first day of your cycle is day 1).
  • The first day of your period minus 14 days was the last time you ovulated. In other words, your period comes 14 days after you ovulate.
  • If you don’t ovulate, the egg will eventually come out during a period after about day 50 because it got old (I am paraphrasing here).

I also asked the doctor some questions that pertain to my lifestyle:

1. On Exercise (I had to ask about this because a lot of the women I talk to as a lifestyle coach would always tell me either that their doctors warned them not to exercise or that they don’t exercise because they don’t want to hurt the baby):

 Baby Story - Exercise

  • You can do whatever you want before getting pregnant (and I actually did a CrossFit-style workout before I knew I was pregnant).
  • After you know you are pregnant, you want your heart rate to go no higher than 140 during exercise.
  • After the first trimester, you should do no exercises on your back and use no more weight than 20 pounds.

2. On Eating:

Baby Story - good food and clean water

  • Focus on fully cooked foods and clean water.  I travel a lot, so it is important for me to carry bottled water with me at all times.

3. On Flying:

 Baby Story - travelling

  • No flying after the 34th week.
  • Walk around during longer flights.

Packing up again

My second period came the day after my doctor visit, and per her instructions, I counted out on the calendar the days to Day 12. Unfortunately for us, Day 12 fell right in the middle of an out-of-town lifestyle coach training. But the good news is that sperm can live in the body for three to five days, so I was covered since I was going to be away for only three days. Of course, I didn’t tell my husband all the math that I was doing, but I made sure that we did the dance at the right time, and that we both had fun doing it!

I almost didn’t go to my training because I wanted to make sure I was at home during my fertility window, but my best friend knocked some sense into me over the phone. Besides that, I realized that if things worked out the way I wanted, there would be no time and limited resources to do the training the following year. I’m glad I went ahead with the trip — I had bonding time with my other best friend who lives in the city where the training was held, and I got to walk a lot, learn a lot, coach a lot, and of course, meet a lot of awesome people!

After my training fun, my husband and I spent a few days together, and then it was time to pack up for another five-week work trip. As I packed my bags, headed to the airport, and said good-bye, I began to hope that I might be pregnant already.

That’s this week’s journey—be sure to check back next week for part 3, “Period Three or a BFP?” for exciting new developments!

Part 1:  Getting Ready For Baby

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About Ejiro Ogenyi

EJ (Ejiroghene) is a Lifestyle Coach and owner of the Team by EJ Ogenyi LLC. She helps busy women lose weight without taking their eyes off their other priorities - their families, their careers, their wallets, and their lives. She is a Certified Personal Trainer and Nutrition Coach and she enjoys bringing her skills and her experience losing weight herself to the awesome task of helping her clients create healthy lives and bodies that they absolutely love. She is also a wife and mama to a beautiful little boy.

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